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Ive heard it time and time again.

I dont know how my husband would react if I made more money than him. This just becomes another excuse for playing small. The reality, based on my own experience, is that YOUR HUSBAND WOULD BE THRILLED! Why in the world wouldnt he be?

Many women create a ceiling on their own success based upon the success levels of their husbands. There are women that honestly think that they would be taking something away from their spouse if they outdid him in regards to income. Millions of women actually BELIEVE this.

I used to be one of these women. Well, not exactly. I just liked to believe that my husband was SUPPOSED to be the breadwinner in the family. Then one day he lost his high-paying job. Yup! Just like that! Our first reaction was to run directly into scarcity mode and start having conversations like, I guess its time for you to find another job in corporate America or Maybe if we both get corporate jobs we can make even a little more than what you were making on your own. And then it dawned on me.

Im passionate about what I do. And I know there are no limits in regards to how successful I can be and how much money I can make, other than the self-imposed limits that I create for myself. I love what I do and Im good at it. And there are lots of other things that I love to do that Im good at that I can develop into a business or another income stream. THERE ARE NO LIMITS.

In this moment I decided that I was going to be the breadwinner. I was not only determined to replace my husbands income, but I was going to make us RICH. Extremely wealthy. What a concept!

I immediately stepped it up a notch w/ my current business and started to see tremendous results. I created another business, from scratch, and have been flying by the seat of my pants, learning as I go along, and loving every minute of it. Im writing books on subjects Im passionate about. Im creating wealth and time freedom and, even better, teaching others how to do the same. I love my life and IM EMPOWERED.

Im empowered in a way Ive never experienced before. I certainly never experienced this while my husband was bringing home the bacon and I was using the fact that Im a mother as an excuse to piddle around and make a little bit of money here and there. Not only was I far from empowered, I was a victim. I actually felt sorry for myself a lot of the time. And my husband resented me. I mean, he never came right out and said that, but he was working way too many hours at a job that he wasnt crazy about and bringing home just enough money for us to scrape by every month. And he never got to spend any time w/ his family (or anyone else outside of his job for that matter). How could he NOT resent me?

In any case, our marriage was questionable at best a lot of the time, and neither of us was truly happy. We werent doing what we were inspired to do. We believed that we just didnt have the money or the time.

Heres our current reality: I do what I love and make great money doing it (not to mention Im consistently finding new things I love and finding new ways to make money doing them!). My husband spends the majority of his time w/ Livvie (our daughter) and loves every minute of it. When hes not w/ her, hes attending some type of meeting or activity that interests him, or creating a product based on what hes passionate about. Im the breadwinner in our family. Im a better mother and a better role model for my daughter and hes a better father. Our daughter will not grow up learning anything about traditional roles or the way its supposed to be. In fact, shell grow up traveling the world due to our unlimited time and financial freedom. And OUR RELATIONSHIP IS INCREDIBLE. Im empowered and happy and my husband gets to see me through different eyes. He has a respect for me that wasnt there before. Hes so happy and peaceful I hardly recognize him. And I get to live each day knowing I played a part in giving him that.

Many people say, Doesnt Isaac have a job yet? When is he going to get it together? I quickly come to his defense by letting them know that its BECAUSE of Isaac that I get to do what I love. Its because of Isaac that were on the road to extreme wealth. Its because of Isaac that I dont have to feel guilty about running around a lot and doing all of the things Im passionate about. Its because of Isaac that I rest easy knowing that Livvies not only safe, but loving every minute of being with her daddy. Its because of Isaac that Im empowered. Its all because of Isaac.

He supports me, and I support the family. He cheers me on and gives me my strength and I go out and make a difference for others. And now, together, well be able to make much more of a difference than we ever could have in our traditional roles.

So heres what I suggest. GO GET WHAT YOU WANT. Do what you love to do and the money will follow. No kidding. I didnt believe it either until I actually tried it. Its true. And give your husband the opportunity to support you while you go after what you want. Its not only an opportunity, its an honor. And give him huge credit for playing this supportive role. Its equally as important as what youll be doing.

Here are some suggestions as far as ways to get the ball rolling:
Join Toastmasters
Join the Chamber of Commerce
Join a network marketing company
Write a book
Build a website
Tell your husband he can hang out with the kids or do what it is hes passionate about because you are going to create enormous wealth.
Most of all, have fun (just experiencing the emotions you will experience while having fun is enough to start attracting everything you want)!

You dont have to get it right, you just have to get it going. So take action today and Ill look for you along the road to success!

Amy Starr Allen is a home-based business entrepreneur, author, and founder of Moms Empowering Moms http://www.MomsEmpoweringMoms.com an organization designed to empower women and develop leaders within their communities and businesses.