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Home, home on the range,
Where never is heard
A discouraging word
And the skies are not cloudy all day!

Oh, that would be wonderful but most parents and bosses tend to feel that criticism and pointing out what is wrong will make others want to do what is right. However, people cannot improve unless they feel good enough about themselves to believe they are capable of improvement. An encouraging parent stops using negative comments about a child and uses methods, words and actions that indicate a respect for the child and a faith in his abilities.

Jack Canfield of Chicken Soup for the Soul fame often cites a study done by some graduate students who followed a normal group of two-year olds around for a day. These average kids from average homes received 432 negative statements as opposed to 32 positive statements daily. The teachers, aides and other children were constantly saying, Dont touch that. No, it is done this way No, you are not big enough. The national PTO (Parent teacher Organization) found the ratio of praise to criticism of school age children to be 18 negative to each positive. It is such automatic action to state things in the negative; we have to learn the words to use in encouraging our children.

Encouragement is the process of focusing on your childrens assets and strengths in order to build their self-confidence and feelings of worth. I like to think of the word encourage broken into en courage meaning I am giving you the gift of courage. Inherent in that gift is the idea that it is okay to take risks and perhaps even to fail, but to go ahead and try it anyway. We need to convey though words and gestures that we appreciate their efforts and improvement not just their accomplishments. We need to make sure they understand that our love and acceptance is not dependent on their behavior or winning the prize in soccer.

Here is a list of 15 encouraging words and phrases that will assist your child to keep trying and increase his self-esteem and confidence.

1.I like the way you handled that 2.Wow, you really thought out the solution to that problem 3.I have faith in your ability 4.I appreciate what you did 5.You are really showing improvement 6.I know you will figure out a good way to do it next time 7.You dont have to be perfect. Effort and improvement are important. 8.I trust you to be responsible 9.It must make you proud of yourself when you accomplish something like that 10.You are a valuable part of the team 11.It is okay to make a mistake, we all do. What do you think you learned from it? 12.How can we turn this into a positive? 13. Im proud of you for trying 14.Ill bet by next year you will be able to handle it, you just need to grow a little 15.I know you are disappointed that you didnt win, but youll do better next time.

Good luck in your efforts to be more positive and encouraging to those around you. Your children, family and employees will be grateful and will rise to your expectations. You do an important work.

2004 Judy H. Wright, Parent Educator, author and international speaker.

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Shock absorbers [or struts] play an important part in your vehicles suspension system. You need to replace them when certain signs of wear becomes evident, otherwise your safety and comfort can become compromised.

A shock absorber works by "damping" the compression and extension of the vehicle's suspension springs to prevent ongoing bouncing. Shocks work to soften road impact, prevent excessive rebound, limit sway, and improve overall road handling. When your shocks are working properly your car holds the road whether you are braking, negotiating a bend in the road, driving on bumpy roads or experiencing strong side winds. When worn out, shocks can contribute to you losing control of your car putting you, your passengers, and riders in other vehicles in grave danger.

There are a variety of companies producing replacement suspension parts, three are highlighted here:

KYB shocks is the largest supplier of shocks and struts to vehicle manufacturers in the world. Their line up of shocks cover the entire gamut from replacement to upgrade to performance shocks and struts.

Perhaps the most well know name in the business is Monroe. Founded in 1916 when cars still rode on carriage springs, Monroe invented the first shock absorber and the company has been innovating ever since.

Tokico shocks are probably less known to consumers, but they are a favorite for those who want a unique combination of ride, adhesion, and handling.

So, when should you replace your shocks? Every 50,000 miles as one manufacturer suggests? Well, it might be earlier than that if you regularly drive on rough roads or much later if your driving is more local, the roads are well maintained, etc.

One way to determine whether your shocks need replacing is to do this simple test:

1. Grab hold of the corner of your vehicles bumper.

2. Push down on it as hard as you can.

3. Observe: the bumper should have dropped down, jumped back up and gone down again once. If it continually moves, then that particular shock is no longer effective. Repeat the test on the remaining three corners of your vehicle.

Other telltale signs of shock wear can be observed through leakage [although a leak is not always indicative of wear] and by observing tire wear patterns. Finally, if you are simply experiencing motion sickness every time you go for a ride, then that can be the best indicator that your shocks or struts need replacing.

Matt Keegan is a contributing writer for Car Parts Stuff, an online supplier of high quality and well priced automobile parts.

Every man in this world desires to love his beloved and express his love to her in the most different way. But there might occur some problem that stops you in achieving this wonderful feeling. In contrast to it, it may become the cause of constant tension in the relationship you have with her. She might feel unsatisfied with the love you give to her and desires more from you.

More then any other disease premature ejaculation is the biggest sexual problems males suffer from. Premature ejaculation is a serious issue worldwide with over 40 % of males suffering from this problem. Premature ejaculation can be defined as the inability to control the early ejaculation of sperm in the process of sexual intercourse. In more precise definition it can be defined as the condition in which a male is not able to make a women achieve her orgasm in more then half the sexual encounter he has with her.

The cause of premature ejaculation can be both physical and psychological. If we talk about todays era this is more often caused due to physiological aspect than to the physical aspect. This is stated so as most of the work done in todays world has become more and more inclined towards the application of or mind rather than the physical activities. This leads to stress and tensions that are regarded as on of the major cause of disturbances in our physiology as compared to anatomy.

But you might be surprsised to know that ayurveda, the worlds most ancient medical science has herbs that are every effective in treating various diseases like premature ejaculation to the most optimum level to make your love life happy and youthful.

Below are few ayurvedic herbs that are widely used not only in treating but also in curing premature ejaculation. These are :-

Ashwagandha (winter cherry, withinia somnifera) - an herb popularly known as Indian ginseng is an herb that has been used since centuries to cure problems of male health and also to increase his vigor. Ashwagandha has been the herb of choice for treating any kind of deformity in the body and also is very effective in treating a diseased body. Ashwagandha is used both as rasayana (rejuvenator) and Vaajikarna (aphrodisiac agent). It not only increases the physical stamina but also helps in enhancing the sexual life. Ashwagandha is said to increase the libido and is very helpful in treating diseases like impotence, erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. It is so wonderful herb that Maharishi Charka has mentioned this herb in very first chapter of charka Samhita.

Kavach beej (cowhage, Mucana pruriens) it would be worth saying that Kavach beej are one of the best sex stimulant this world has. Kavach beej is popularly known as cowhage as it is found growing wild in Indian subcontinent and also in warmer countries like South America and Africa. Its properties make it as the best herb that helps in treating sexual problems. Kavach beej or Mucana pruriens is a part of almost every herbal Viagra available this time round the globe. It helps in treating premature ejaculation by increasing the stamina in males. It is also helpful in treating the problems of impotence. It is very beneficial in increasing and improving the sperm count. This also helps in enhancing the sexual vigor and ignites the desire to indulge in sexual affairs.

Salab mishri (early purple orchid, orchis mascula) salab mishri or saleb is widely used herb in ayurvedic medicine that deals in aphrodisiac purpose. It is one of the best herbs that has wonderful effect on our body. It not only increases the sexual stamina but also enhances the performance of the body. It increases the blood circulation to the penis and testes making it bigger and harder. It is a well known fact that harder the penis betters the performance. It will surely make your lady love to achieve the peck of your love intensity and it will also make you happy. Salab mishri or early purple orchid is also very helpful in increasing the sperm count and also improves the quality of the sperms. Salab mishri is a terrestrial plant that is highly recommended in sexual problem.

Read more on How to Increase Libido through Herbal Treatments at http://www.ayurvediccure.com - World's Finest Portal on Ayurveda and Herbal Remedies. Also know more on Premature Ejaculation Cure.

Are you looking to rent a car/ are you going on a holiday of a lifetime or a business trip that you want as few hassles as possible? Are you sure that you have gotten the best rental car rate that you can? Contrary to popular belief, not all car rental companies are the same. Even the major national companies have their own rates and special offers so its worth checking the competition out. The purpose of this article is to answer some of the most frequently asked questions regarding rental car and rental car rates.

Dont all of the major companies charge about the same in car rental rates? Not always, even the major carriers get into competition with each other. They are always trying to get each others business. Many will also have their own promotions and special offers so its worth calling around and checking.

Is it cheaper to rent weekly or daily? You will surely get a cheaper rental rate if you rent per week. Even if you only rent the car for 4 or 5 days ask the company if the will charge you via the weekly rate. This could result in substantial savings for you.

Should I only consider the major companies? Not always, smaller companies can quite often offer a better car rental rate. Just make sure that you are dealing with a reputable company. Beware of places that offer extremely low rates. These quite often dont give unlimited mileage and involve hidden costs

The secret to finding the best car rental rate is to do your homework. Dont be afraid to put companies against each other. Quite often they will bid for your business. Keep looking, and do your homework. It could save you loads.

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Ads about how to stop smoking with hypnotherapy are sometimes viewed with skepticism and even fear. But, before you make a decision, you should know that recent scientific research concerning a stop smoking hypnotherapy program in Temple, TX showed that after 6 months 40% of the active participants had not returned to smoking. Thats an impressive figure, since most people tend to return to smoking within the first year of quitting.

When compared to Chantix, the recently released prescription medication for smoking cessation, hypnosis seems like a good option. Pfizer, the makers of Chantix, reports a 44% quit rate after 3 months.

In the hypnosis study, published by the International Journal of Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis, 40% had quit in two months and 60% had quit after 3 months. The figure dropped back down to 40% after 6 months.

After one year, researchers for Pfizer found that the quit rate dropped to 36.7%, but the participants in that study continued taking the drug for the full year. Currently the drug is only approved by the FDA for short-term use, not longer than 6 months.

Pfizer advises that Chantix should be taken for at least 3 months. People were able to stop smoking with hypnotherapy after only two months and only 8 sessions total.

The major side effects of Chantix include nausea, insomnia and abnormal dreams. 96% of study participants reported these or other side effects and 15% dropped out of the study because of the side effects. No negative side effects have been associated with the stop smoking hypnotherapy program.

Over the years, movies, books and TV shows have made many people think that hypnosis is unsafe, that the hypnotist is in control of your mind. The truth is that the hypnotist has no real power; he or she simply helps a person achieve a very relaxed state and makes suggestions.

If a person wants to stop smoking with hypnotherapy, the suggestions will only focus on not smoking. You will be aware of any suggestions that the therapist makes and you can stop a session at any time.

No one is completely sure how a stop smoking hypnotherapy program works. No one is completely sure how Chantix works or why people become addicted to nicotine. There are only theories.

One theory is that hypnosis allows a person to focus his or her attention more deeply on the suggestion, by reducing what is sometimes described as brain noise. In a two-sided conversation with a therapist, you may be thinking about what the therapist is saying, but you may also be looking at what is going on around the room, thinking about whats for dinner or any number of other things.

Hypnosis allows us to concentrate more fully on the important idea that is being suggested, in this case not smoking.

If you would like to stop smoking with hypnotherapy, but fear high fees for sessions or prefer privacy, there are effective self-hypnosis programs. These involve the use of recorded and written suggestions, as well as worksheets to help improve the chances of a successful quit.

To learn more about these and other options visit the Stop Smoking Blog, a resource for those who wish to quit, written by those who have.

Patsy Hamilton was a health care professional for over twenty years before becoming a health writer. Currently she is writing a series of articles about how to stop smoking. Read more at http://www.stop-smoking-blog.com

Prayer or Meditation: If youre a believer you can pray if you are not at least take time to clear your mind and meditate. (On clearing your mind) A short prayer for God to guide you and give you the right words cant ever hurt. God has promised to give believers words even when they are under a heavy persecution; Mt 10:19. Why wouldnt he also help when there isnt any persecution? He would. Obviously you must do this before you speak. If you dont pray before you speak you might find yourself praying in the middle of your presentation for God to get you out of it as quickly as possible. Do not overlook this little gem because although it seems unimportant, it can actually be what makes or breaks your performance or presentation.

Concentrate Only On what Your Doing or Saying: Finding something to focus on in the room, the podium or in your own head is the quick road to failure. If you are concentrating on some external matter your attention is divided and everyone will see that as clearly as a red blinking light on you head. One hundred percent of your attention on your subject, your music or anything else leaves zero percent wasted on fear, faces and nerves. It also goes without saying that you should never give any attention to time. It is another great false detractor. If youre in a hurry, it shows a lack of confidence, if you go over time you must be approaching expert levels in your field. Take that as an unspoken compliment.

Ask Yourself One Single Question: Before you begin speaking ask yourself one all important question. Who in this entire audience could do or say what I am doing or saying? If you consider the answer very carefully you will always arrive at the same answer which is, few to none. When I was playing American and Irish Folk music I constantly reminded myself that I had a repertoire of about one thousand songs. I wasnt trying to feed my ego but I was reminding myself of one fact. If I were to ask my audience how many people could do one thousand songs, I would get no answers at all most of the time. When I get up to speak I am reminded of years of schooling, hours of personal preparation, scores of published articles and two published books. Ego, no, it is only the answer to the all important question. The bottom line is that since no one can say or do what you are saying or doing just get on with it. Waste no time on what anyone thinks. If they could do what you are doing they would be in the podium and you would be in the audience.

Get Emotional: If you stuff doesnt move you it wont move anyone else either. This is an immutable rule of presentation. If you are singing your interpretation of Twinkle Twinkle Little Star pour yourself into it. If you are speaking about the nocturnal habits of fire ants do it with gesticulations, reverberations and tremors. Ridiculous you say, think again. One of the greatest influences in my days of performing music was a man I had never met and I never heard even one note of his music. His influence came from the remarks I heard others make about him. They all agreed that his shows were amazing because he was so overwhelmingly emotional and caught up in what he was doing. I soon discovered that when I got all wrapped up and emoted in my music that even when I thought my performance was poor the audience did not. Try it youll like it.

Use Humor: Not everyone is good at telling jokes and humorous stories but almost everyone knows at least one or two good ones. Nothing breaks the ice quicker than humor. If you get them laughing early you have already invoked at least one basic human emotional response, provoking others will be a great deal easier from then on. Dont comb the joke books looking for the best jokes. Think of the jokes you have heard others say recently. The key is twofold. Pick a joke or humorous story that is somewhat related to what you are presenting. And do not pick jokes that you alone think are funny. Use jokes that you have seen bringing others to a belly laugh. Use humor that has worked in the public domain. Dont overdue the humor angle because people can recognize filler material very easily. The other side of the coin is not to ignore this useful tool of the trade. Laughter is a great equalizer for both audience and speaker.

Get Personal: This is far more than good advice, it is a rule that if ignored will become the difference between success and failure. I have watched skilled musicians who never once addressed their audiences. Their performance may have been impeccable but in the end met with little acclaim. Ive heard speakers who know their subject forward and backward but left people yawning and fidgeting. What was missing was often if not always the personal touch. You must get a rapport going with any audience on the personal level or will get nothing else going at all. How can you do that? Take a cue from the stand up comedian or the storyteller. They ask mundane questions and they wait for someone to answer or acknowledge it with a gesture or murmur. Where are you from, any one here from New York? Hey, does it ever stop raining here in Washington. Let me see how many of you are here tonight; if youre here raise your hand. For those of you that didnt raise your hand I have a question, where the heck are you? I often started off by saying, thank you for having me here tonight and it is good to see you all here to hear my music, now get out of here every one of you. Some were shocked, some giggled some roared but all came to attention. Sound silly, it is but make no mistake, it works.

See The Crowd As Only One Person: No science is available to prove how or why this little tool works, but be assured it will never fail. Always speak to the audience as if you were talking to only one single person. It makes them feel that you are being very personal with each individual, they can feel the difference. It shrinks the crowd on a perceptional level for you. Remember that perception is often the better part of reality. It moves the entire matter to a, one on one. Who wouldnt admit that they are more comfortable talking to their neighbor or some stranger but not a whole crowd? Approach your performance or address as if you were doing just that and you will succeed.

Rev Bresciani is the leader of a non-denominational ministry in the New Orleans area. He has written many articles over the past thirty years in such periodicals as Guideposts and Catholic Digest. He is the author of two books available on Amazon.com, Alibris, Barnes and Noble and many other places. Rev Bresciani wrote, Hook Line and Sinker or What has Your Church Been Teaching You, published by PublishAmerica of Baltimore MD. He also wrote a book recently released by Xulon Press entitled An American Prophet and His Message, Questions and Answers on the Second Coming of Christ. Rev Bresciani has his own website at http://americanprophet.org