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Oregon is one of the most marvelous places in the world. Blessed with a variety of climates, landscapes, cultural diversity, tourist attractions, beautiful cities and friendly people can make the wedding day fantasies of any couple come true.

Why would a couple want to travel to a far away place to celebrate their wedding day? The answer is fantasy, an intimate celebration, and the opportunity to travel to an exotic place and enjoy something different.

Some of the most popular destination places for weddings in Oregon include:

Portland, the City of the Roses, is a very friendly green city of temperate climate, surrounded by beautiful mountains, rivers, and forests. It offers great vineyards, wonderful attractions, monumental buildings, shopping centers, beautiful gardens, museums, farmer markets, beer brewing festivals, ethnic restaurants, skiing, museums, a unique zoo, etc.

A few miles from Portland is the Columbia River Gorge one of the most marvelous and scenic attractions in the world with breathtaking views, windsurfing, hiking, and the place of Multnomah Falls the most famous waterfall attraction in Oregon. Mt. St. Helens National Volcanic Monument is only 50 miles north of Portland. The monument offers an opportunity to marvel at destruction and at Nature's recovery

Eugene, a city with heart and spirit voted several times as one the best places to live in the US. The city offers wonderful music and cultural festivals, museums, awesome wineries and vineyards, markets, ethnic foods, great golf courses, beautiful parks and friendly people.

Corvallis, the heart of the Willamette Valley is the city with the highest educated population in the world. It is conveniently located one hour from the Oregon Coast and it is surrounded by beautiful forests, vineyards, and parks.

The Oregon Coast is a prime destination for weddings in Oregon. Its natural beauty is second to none. There are so many attractions along the Oregon Coast that it would take a lifetime to see all of them. These include lighthouses, museums, art galleries, historical centers, casinos, parks, trails, horseback riding, shopping centers, whale watching, fishing expeditions, surfing, shopping centers, the Oregon Marine Aquarium, etc.

The coastal cities of Astoria, Tillamook, Cannon Beach, Depoe Bay, Newport, Yachats, Coos Bay, Florence, Brookings, Waldport, Seaside, Lincoln City, just to name a few, offer beautiful and unique attractions. Any couple planning a wedding at the Oregon Coast will never be disappointed.

Central Oregon is the home of Bend, Sunriver, Prineville, Madras, Sisters, La Pine, and Warm Springs. The area offers great attraction including exhibits of Regional Native American History, museums, resorts, golf courses, trails, skiing, parks, lakes, camping, rafting, shopping centers, gift stores, fishing, hiking, etc. The perfect climate of the area along with the many attractions makes it an ideal destination.

For outdoor weddings the peak wedding season in Oregon happens between May and October. Many couples plan their wedding to coincide with major festivals and local celebrations such as the Portland Rose Festival or the Oregon Shakespeare Festival in Ashland. Due to the diverse attractions, beauty, and climate of the state any time of the year is a good time for a destination wedding in beautiful Oregon.

Your Destiny Number, which describes all of the talents and potentials that are at your disposal in this lifetime, is calculated from the letters that compose your full birth name. This is not your married name, but rather the name that is found written in full on your birth certificate. If your name is misspelled on your birth certificate, use that to configure your destiny number.

The interpretations of your Destiny Number below are an indication of the things that you need to live up to or accomplish in this lifetime. Unlike the Life path Number, which is more about your limitations due to your ancestry or physicality, this calculation offers you a glimpse of what opportunities should be available to you as you travel the Life Path. The value of your Destiny Number is that it shows you what you are truly capable of or what you should look for when it comes to realizing your highest potential.

To calculate your Destiny number treat each of your names separately and add up the values according to the conversion chart below.

A J S 1--- B K T 2--- C L U 3--- D M V 4--- E N W 5--- F O X 6--- G P Y 7--- H Q Z 8--- I R 9

For instance if your name is Britney Jean Spears your numbers would add up and reduce to

Britney 2+9+9+2+5+5+7 = 39

3+9 = 11

1+1=2

Jean 1+5+1+5 = 12

1+2 = 3

Spears 1+7+5+1+9+1 = 24

2+4 = 6

You would then add up the three sums that represent each of the three names. In Britney Spear's case, the equation is:

2+3+6 = 11

All double digits are reduced to a single number by adding them together. Britney is a master number 11. However for the purposes of the destiny reading her double-digit number would also be reduced to:

1+1 = 2.

As Britney is both an 11 and a 2, she would read both interpretations as outlined below.

INTERPRETATIONS OF THE DESTINY NUMBER

Destiny Number 1

A 1's talents include originality, creativity and the ability to launch plans into motion. They have the potential to become very prosperous as a result of applying these skills. Socially or professionally, a number 1 is the person that makes "things happen."

Number 1's are also great business people and entrepreneurs. This is because of their prodigious ambition and determination. Their strong confidence and self-reliance allows them to forge business relationships that last a lifetime.

Sometimes they suffer from impatience, as they fear being left behind either socially or professionally. They may also act too hastily because they are afraid of being left out of the loop.

This is an aggressive number and often its potential is truncated by over assertiveness and a tendency to dominate conversations. A 1's best route to success is to learn how to be patient and tolerant of other people's ideas.

Destiny Number 2

Number 2's are mediators and peacemakers. They seem to function best in a group. Usually it is a number 2 who is the power behind the throne.

A 2's strengths lie in the ability to pull strings behind the scenes. Number 2's usually land in high paying jobs as facilitators and team leaders. They are often untouchable in corporate situations because they are so valuable to the head of the outfit.

Their courtesy and diplomacy usually earns them many friends. It is usually a number 2 who wins popularity contests, much to his or her humble surprise. 2's are also very modest and willing to credit others for his or her success.

Some number 2s can be a bit shy and a bit too eager to please. The key to a 2's success is to not let others take advantage of them. If anything, number 2's are so generous, few of them bother to stand up for themselves in an unjust situation. However, they make so many friends, usually they are saved by an individual eager to return one of the number 2's many favors.

Destiny Number 3

Those born with Number 3 as their destiny number excel at all persuasive talents. These include writing, speaking, singing, acting, litigating, and teaching selling, designing and composing music.

3's excel at selling themselves. Number 3's often photograph well and usually have beautiful voices.

One often-unexploited talent of a number 3 is their natural ability to uplift others with their words and ideas. Their true purpose in life is to inspire and motivate others with their wonderful sense of faith and optimism.

Sometimes Number 3s have a tendency to be shallow or superficial. To be successful they need to resist a temptation to gossip about others or create unnecessary dramas. Often they do this because they are bored. They are best to save their dramatic talents for the stage, podium or silver screen.

Destiny Number 4

Number 4s thrive best in a corporate environment. Their unique skills are administration, project management and all kinds of organization. They are highly systematic by nature and respected for their willingness to work long hours to get a project done.

Number 4'salso make excellent surgeons, architects, engineers, musicians and teachers. They work well with their hands and have an innate understanding of structure, design and rhythm.

Unfortunately, Number 4s rarely get anything handed to them on a silver platter, but the universe does amply reward them for their efforts. Hard work and determination are the keys to a number 4's success, no matter what their circumstances.

A block to prosperity that sometimes manifests with number 4's is a tendency to be too rigid or dogmatic in their thinking. They are black and white thinkers with strong likes and dislikes. When it comes to making the most of what you are born with, 4's do best when they consider the "gray areas" and cultivate tolerance, patience and acceptance.

Destiny Number 5

Versatile number 5's are usually born with many talents and abilities. They often awe others with their competence in all areas of life. These masters of flexibility and change are also great innovators and inventors. Their quick wit and charm often makes them very popular socially.

5's make great marketing and advertising executives as well as real estate and travel agents. They are born with a natural ability to "sell ice to an Eskimo." A 5 that is stuck in a pedestrian job where they are not allowed to practice their incredible talents of persuasion is usually a very unhappy camper.

These clever and observant individuals also make great stand-up comedians and performers. As they are adventurous and risk-takers, number 5s also thrive best as a freelancers or business owners.

Sometimes these intelligent people bore so easily that it is difficult for them to stay in any one occupation or career for too long. The Number 5's key to success is learning how to follow through and finish one thing before they start another. They should also resist the temptation to be too glib, as it causes others not to take them seriously.

Destiny Number 6

Number 6's are born diplomats who can restore balance to any disharmonious situation. Many of them are natural healers and excel as doctors, nurses, psychologists, counselors, babysitters and any occupation that involves taking care of the elderly, the sick or the poor.

These exceptional individuals are born with an innate talent of uplifting the spirits of others, especially during hard times. Some of them do this through service and others accomplish this through art, music or writing. Whether they are conscious of it or not, their destiny is often to restore faith in hearts that are broken.

Number 6's are very concerned with family and children, and many of them feel unfulfilled in life if they don't get the chance to raise a family. If you are a Number 6 you have a lot to offer the world in terms of the often-unappreciated task of parenting. No other number understands the mind of a child better.

Number 6's can sabotage their success by being too demanding of themselves. Many of them have bad childhoods that cause them to grow up with a severe inner critic that constantly tells them that they are not good enough. The key to a number 6's success is to be as loving, caring and respectful of themselves as they are too others.

Destiny Number 7

Those born with a number 7 Destiny number tend to be thoughtful introverts who treasure privacy and seclusion. They prefer to be invisible in a crowd and make excellent detectives and defenders of the law. Their acute power of observation also leads many of them to careers in research and science.

Although they are deeply analytical, and sometimes even skeptical, many number 7's have a secret passion for pursuing some aspect of neuro-linguistics, the occult, social anthropology or religion. Many of them are great armchair philosophers who spend a lot of time thinking about the nature of existence and truth.

Number 7's can appear to be cold and withdrawn to others, as they are not very expressive e with their hands or facial movements. They also believe in saying as little as possible, as to them that is more of an expression of power and dignity than wearing one's heart on their sleeve.

Many 7's are so brilliant that they can't help but come off to others as hopeless eccentrics. The 7's key to success is to make sure that they take the time and energy to spend some time outside their fascinating minds and connect to other people.

Their best way to express emotion is to write their feelings down on paper and show it to others.

Destiny Number 8

Those born with the Destiny number 8 are fated to make money during their lifetime. They have the potential for considerable achievement in business or other powerful positions, however many of them are simply born into wealthy families.

Number 8's are also very practical and seem to have a knack for building and accumulating wealth. For this reason they make excellent bankers, stockbrokers and accountants. A downside to this is that sometimes their desire to acquire more money becomes a burning desire that causes them to ignore family, friends and social life.

Although it seems that Number 8's have it easy, much of their success is due to their sound judgment when it comes to money and commercial matters. 8's are also excellent judges of character and do not suffer fools gladly.

The key to a Number 8's success is to always remember to count one's blessings. As this can be a very materialistic and ambitious sign, their greed and status-consciousness can destroy their intimate relationships. Number 8's should also watch out for making false friends who are only attracted to their money or power. As they are so successful, they are often the targets of back stabbers, so they should choose their confidantes wisely.

Destiny Number 9

Number 9's destiny often lies within the sphere of humanitarian causes. They make excellent teachers, counselors and priests. Nines are not very career driven and are born with an innate understanding of human nature.

These kind, considerate and compassionate individuals are often also blessed with literary or artistic gifts as well. However, as many of them are so driven to help the world and solve humanity's problems, they don't get around to expressing their artistic talents until very late in life. This is a shame because it is the number 9s who have created the most inspirational and uplifting written and visual material.

9's are idealists who believe the most valuable tool for change is to put wisdom into practice. A 9 rarely develops a personal ambition that also does not include an interest in people and bettering the world. Friendships and love are much more important to a 9 than career, or even a 9's own survival.

Some 9's take their idealism to the point that they are always bitter and disappointed by others' reaction to their philanthropic works. In order to live up to his or her highest potential, a 9 must take care not to be carried away by principles as this can lead to aloofness and pride. To stay on track, 9's must always remember to forgive human beings for being so fallible.

Destiny Number 11

Number 11's are conduits of spiritual information that often feel a great need to transform the world with their visions. This master number often sets goals for himself or herself that are almost impossible to live up to.

11's have an innate spiritual strength and acute awareness of others that often has a positive transformative effect on other people's lives. They often display a positive and upbeat attitude that others find contagious. Their ability to inspire others makes them excellent teachers, social workers, philosophers and advisors.

This deeply intuitive sign is also very interested in occult, religious or supernatural matters. Many of them are born psychic and at some point in their life become priests, nuns, tarot readers, astrologers, metaphysicians, light-workers, channellers and Reiki masters. Usually they are propelled on the spiritual path after taking a hard fall after a period of fantastic success very early in their life.

The strain of being so omniscient often deteriorates the delicate nervous systems of number 11's that fit the profile of the "wounded healer." Practices such as yoga and meditation keep the flighty number 11's feet on the ground.

Destiny Number 22

Usually the destiny of a 22 is to become a leader of some kind in their field, whether it is politics, law, medicine or the entertainment industry. Even as children, 22's usually display a sense of direction, wisdom and talent that is far beyond their years.

The number 22 is called the Master Builder because they are capable of manifesting great changes on the earthly plane. They usually do this through the construction of some kind of empire, whether it is of a social, financial or religious nature.

22's are very balanced individuals who seem to lead charmed lives. This is because they are born with a keen sense of judgment as well a practical sense that allows them to "beat the odds." They are masters of manifestation who know how the power of a negative thought or image can destroy potential.

22's have very few negative qualities, but if they do self-sabotage their success it is because they become spoiled by constantly getting their own way. A 22 needs to realize that even a run of their bad luck would be perceived by other numbers to be a lucky streak. As they are often the focus of a lot of attention, 22's also need to make sure that their own PR does not carry them away. This can lead to a disconnection from others as well as a detachment from the 22's original mission, which is to create facilities, systems and structures that improve the world.

Destiny Number 33

A name that reduces down to Destiny number of 33 is very rare. Usually this marks an individual a being destined for some great purpose in life, usually of a religious or military nature.

Number 33's are usually enlightened individuals who are fated to sacrifice their entire life for the sake of a principle or an idea. For this reason many become world-renowned spiritual or political leaders who dedicate their lives to spiritual enlightenment.

On the down side, some 33's are born to express the shadow side of the collective consciousness of mankind. Their emergence into positions of power and public life is often to demonstrate the potentiality of evil to the world. For this reason, the destiny number 33 can also create a serial killer, a tyrant or a malevolent cult leader.

hether for good or for evil, the destiny of a 33 is usually to transform the world's perception of morality and spirituality, whether it is through direct teachings or inspiration or the provocation of a reaction to a tragic event.

Sex is important! Through the act we perpetuate the species, our own genetic material, and of course, we have fun. Sex is one of the fundamental drives of the human mind; ask any advertiser or film maker whether or not sex sells. Sex is what I like to call a Sensual Energy eXchange. There are different uses for this energy just as there are different inclinations and preferences regarding this energy. Using the Destiny Number, also called the Life Path, we can learn how to best channel this energy to fulfill our sexual needs. The Destiny Number is your birth date reduced to a single digit. For example, if you were on January 1, 1980 you would proceed: 1+1+1+9+8+0 = 20 and 2 + 0 = 2.

NOTE: Sexual expression is often considered taboo and even those who are emancipated may have a number of repressions. In order to better illustrate the point we will focus upon the extremes. Do not be surprised if you find yourself experiencing a reaction of one form or another and keep an open mind, use these suggestions to embody your vibration sexually.

1 Destiny: You can be single minded in your pursuit of your lover. Taken to the extreme you can look at love as a contest and your partners as conquests. At times you focus too much upon your own satisfaction and be a little too dominant although, your partners find you exciting and willing to experiment. Sexual activities: You can channel your 1 energy be being on top. Make sure you experience the other end of the 1 spectrum by allowing your partner to ride. Ladies, try red lingerie for an exciting night.

2 Destiny: You are a caring lover who aims to please in any way that you can. You enjoy kissing, hugging, and cuddling. In fact, such things are necessary as you need to feel protected and nurtured. At the extreme end you may try to plan things out in advance and schedule love making. You can be a bit submissive and follow your partners energy very well. Sexual activities: Show your partner your willingness to please by displaying your body through dance and self-pleasure for their eyes only. On the other side, playfully refuse your lovers advances from time to time and learn to enjoy the power that comes with teasing. Ladies should consider shades of orange in lingerie and makeup.

3 Destiny: You are an exciting and playful lover with a lot of confidence. This gives you the ability to make your partner feel comfortable with your playful, light hearted attitude towards sex. You like different positions and are likely to have a copy of Kama Sutra on your shelf. You can be so uninhibited that you may make your lover blush! Sexual activities: Activities that allow for the sensual exploration of other parts of the body are ideal such as breast sex and foot or toe sex. Ladies can spice things up with shades of yellow.

4 Destiny: Fours can struggle with emotions, especially understanding the passions of their partner. You are slow and steady and may delay lovemaking to build up the steam. Relationships are very important and you are extremely loyal and faithful. Your sex life can become stagnant if you take an intellectual approach and rely only upon the tried and true methods of becoming turned on. Sexual activities: Turn off the lights and crawl under the covers with your lover. Slow, gentle, and long. On the flip side of the coin, go wild every once in a while. Try making love outdoors. Ladies, green is the color to pull out your sensual side to the max.

5 Destiny: The adventurous one! You enjoy variety and excitement. Spontaneity is a turn on as are new places, new positions and new people! You are attractive to the opposite sex and need mental as well as physical stimulation. You like the ups and downs of passion and stimulation. Sexual activities: You may want to eat from a larger menu that includes oral and anal fun, role playing, and other non-standard activities like spanking. Ladies should wear blue underclothes and makeup.

6 Destiny: Sixes are quite devoted and need to maintain the balance and harmony in a relationship. When you find that special someone giving in to carnal desires is a joy. Music, candles, and lighting all help to create that air of romance. Long, very long sessions of foreplay including lots of kissing is to your liking. Sexual activities: Being kissed and licked all over your body as well as massages and digital exploration will suit you just fine. Ladies should wear indigo, dark blue, and black.

7 Destiny: Dreamy and romantic, you secretly desire a spiritual connection with your lover. You can be a little spacey and detached and your analytical nature can produce an almost clinical approach to sex. However, you can potentially reach levels of intimacy with your lover that are beyond conscious comprehension. Sexual activities: Explore such things as Tantra and techniques allowing for a more meditative sexual experience. Shed that clinical disposition and use some dirty words! Ladies, violets and purples will bring out your inner beast.

8 Destiny: Ok, youre a freak. Or frigid. Up or down youre either almost totally active or passive. You can be a little too wrapped up in the politics of sexual power and wouldnt mind having total control of your partner. Seduce or be seduced. This attitude can alienate others however, when you make a commitment you do so completely. Sexual activities: Games that allow you to safely explore power relationships such as Bondage and Discipline or Role Playing. Learn to enjoy gushy, overly romantic displays. Ladies, the color pink will help you balance out your sexual urges.

9 Destiny: You can be so empathetic that you become a doormat. But, you enjoy helping your lover and often put your own needs on the backburner. But when they finally build up, watch out! Your passion can be volcanic and you lover can unexpectedly find that your quiet nature has become quite demanding. And exciting. Sexual activities: Anything that allows for mutual selfless pleasure such as sixty-nine or mutual masturbation. Ladies should try brown, bronze and chocolate colors in makeup and lingerie.

Copyright Jakob Steele 2007

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4-4-2
Defense;

4, defenders are usually arranged as outside left, inside left, inside right and outside right.
The most recent idea is to have them lined up in a banana shape with the middle of the curve closest to the goalkeeper and the outside defenders, the points, slightly ahead but behind the midfielders.
As this is the shape of a banana the defenders can see one another usualy all the time.

Some considered the flat back option but this means much more communication from the capitain of the defense usually one of the insiders.
The general idea is to have the two defenders attend to the attack coming in from their side.

This means that the opposite outside tucks in a little to cover the center of the field covering the goal and any incoming additional attacking opponents.
When the team has possession the defenders would then play wide to stretch out the other teams attackers.
This is also known as playing it around the back.

Sometimes the defenders can be lined up in a diamond shape. This is to utilize the last player back as a "sweeper" who clears the ball up the field and out to the other defenders and mid fielders.
This player is in constant communication with the goalkeeper and relays the message to the other defenders. This is because the goalkeepers can see the complete field from their vantage point.

At times and in some cases too often this central defender will by-pass the midfield and play it up to the forwards. I say too often because this usually has the forwards out numbered by the opposing defenders.. However there are a few "power forwards" who could handle this situation, but most are unable too.

The defender at the top of the diamond is considered the "stopper" whose duty is to challenge any attack or attacking play. They usually play from side to side rather than up and down the field.
These defenders are involved in shutting down any play and play making.
These players really read the game well. They need to, or they would be doing all the running.

Midfield

4, mid-fielders are usually arranged as outside left, inside left, inside right and outside right.
The outside players are called, wingers or flank players and are also involved in striking at the goal.
This would make this line up have a possibility of 4 strikers at any given time.
These wingers usually have the bulk of the running to do as they could carry the ball from the defending third and into the attacking third.
This also depends on the team strategy as outlined by the coaching staff.

The two inside midfielders are supposed to be the "play makers". These are the individuals who are responsible for carrying out the plans the coach and players have designed and used as the methods of attack and goal scoring.
These positions have traditionally played these roles. However nowadays the play making comes from anyone and sometimes all the players at any given time.
These inside players have also been more defensive in their general on field play.
This defensive idea is to stop the opposition from creating attacking options.

Forwards;

These are the main ggoooooooooooalll scoring machines. The ones who react to the ball quickly and are able to shoot from any place on the field.
To be effective they should work closely together as a team and pair. To this extent they are sometimes called "twin strikers".
They are also responsible for creating space by making the defenders mark them.
They make the defense leave their zonal resposibilities whereby taking them "out of the game".

I see it every day. Young bucks come into gym in their high school years and train and make astounding gains and begin to think about bodybuilding. Testosterone is at its peak during these years and just seems they cant get enough of the gym or the results they are achieving. By the time the senior year rolls around, they are at their peak physically. It came so easily, it seems, that development will stay forever.

However life begins to change after high school. College starts in the fall or perhaps you start a full time job. Distractions are everywhere. Many football, baseball and wrestling jocks of high school no longer shine above their college competition and most do not continue disciplined organized sports that once brought you to the gym in the first place.

Besides not playing the sports, studies are now more time consuming. The food is all you can eat at the student cafeteria and, well, beer parties are everywhere. This is the most fun ever, you think. By the time Thanksgiving rolls around, no time was found for the gym and you are well on way to the freshman fifteen. That is the fifteen pounds of smoothing fat that you picked up during the first year on your own away from home. Bodybuilding was but a memory back home.

Spring rolls around and you are back home for the summer. But wow have you changed? Heavier, smoother and where did those muscles go? You return to the gym for the summer to get in shape. You find it is next to impossible to return the body to its former ripped state much less building up this summer.

My point here guys, bodybuilding is not for the weak willed. If you want to continue to be in shape you must plan the discipline of working out if you are going to have the better body. Bodybuilding is tough. Dont kid yourself. If it was easy everyone would be in shape.

So what should you do? Well if you are college bound do the following:

-During campus visit check out the gym facilities. Determine if the equipment is suitable to meet your bodybuilding needs.

-Do your campus visit during the normal school year to get a feel for the people that are going. Is the gym too crowded (undersized for the campus)? What is the attitude of those training, motivational or passively active.

-How close is the gym to the living quarters? Is it convenient?

-What are the food choices at the cafeteria? Can I get the high protein foods? Is food overly processed? What are the off campus choices?

Now I am not saying that you make your college selection based solely upon the gym facilities but it should be a factor if you are serious about your training.

-Finally once you arrive at college, review your class schedule. Then clearly plan a workout time along with your study and class time. If you have to put a routine in the morning, just do it.

-Settle into a routine and stick to it.

-Dont stay up so late. You need your rest to recover from workouts and besides late nights will cause you to want to sleep through that morning routine.

-Lay off alcohol. Its catabolic; meaning it works to strip your muscles off. It acts on the body the opposite of steroids. Its bad news. It will take you places you dont want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay and cost you more than you can imagine.

-Eat right. Do I need to say more?

-Read a bodybuilding magazine periodically to keep your focus.

-Hang out with those that are in the gym. They are a better influence in keeping you disciplined.

Okay there you have it. Stay with your training and your freshman fifteen will be MUSCLE not flab!

"Bad Boys".

If you're a woman, you may be saying "hmmm" as you hear these words. You know you shouldn't, but you just can't help yourself.

There is just SOMETHING about these guys that draws you in, even as your head tells you to "beware"!

So, what exactly is the attraction? It's not necessarily that they are more physically attractive or smarter or more successful than the "nice guys". In fact, they can have fewer of these qualities, yet be harder to resist.

So what is it? Let's begin by defining these guys. This term is generally applied to males who treat women poorly. Do these behaviors ring a bell?

*calling at 8:30 on a Saturday night to ask if you want to get together

*not showing up for a date- followed by no phone call or apology

*never having any money when you are out

* forgetting or ignoring your birthday and other important dates

*flirting openly with other women when you are together

*hitting on your good friend(s)

*making booty calls at 1am, after they've had a night out with others

*is doing time for a serious felony

Instead of asking "what is it about these guys"; let's instead examine what it is about the women who can't resist them. The following are actual statements from women who have a history of attraction to these guys. See if any of these sound familiar.

* "It's never BORING with him. He's unpredictable and exciting."

* "He's strong, aggressive and self-assured; I feel safe with him."

* "It's not his fault; he's trying to get his life together."

* "I haven't met anyone else that makes me feel the way he does."

* "He's so charming and passionate."

* "He tells me how much he likes me, so he must really feel something for me."

* "He needs me."

* "He doesn't come across as needy and desperate."

* "I can't believe I've attracted someone like him."

Now, on the face of these, they seem pretty benign. We all seek at least some of these traits in the men we choose. So, where's the problem?

Essentially it's in his inability to meet the woman's fundamental needs. She is the one doing all (or most) of the giving. The question then lies in; "what's in it for her?"

The answer can be found by exploring three basic issues:

*level of self-esteem

*capacity for intimacy

*roles that she has been in throughout her life

If a woman feels good about herself, she chooses a mate who communicates both verbally and non-verbally to her that she is valued and respected. She won't allow this other person to undermine her positive self-worth. She believes in her ability to participate in a healthy, reciprocal relationship.

If she doesn't feel good about herself, she chooses someone who reinforces her negative self-beliefs.

If a woman is capable of true intimacy, she is open to the true availability of the other person. She wants him to be a full and active participant in the relationship. She can allow herself to be open, vulnerable and able to take as well as to receive all that true intimacy offers.

If intimacy is difficult, she choose someone who is distant, hard to connect with and not emotionally and/or physically available.

If a woman has had a healthy role in her relationships since childhood, she will choose someone with whom she can continue this healthy interaction.

If a woman has been too long in the role of rescuer, caregiver or the one who sacrifices for the good of others, this will probably be the role she will seek out in her relationships.

Fortunately, most women fall somewhere in between on these issues. So the task is to evaluate yourself in each area and decide on a course of action that will help you to choose a "nice guy", who stirs your senses and meets your needs while being truly available for a real relationship.

Begin with an assessment of what you value most in life and cannot live without.

Go to http://www.consum-mate.com/newslets/02oct.htm for an article on "clarifying and living your values".

Once you know what is most important to you and believe that you are worthy of achieving it, you will have taken a giant step towards finding the right partner for you.

If you live in the US you have most likely heard of the Comcast Internet service. By providing a digital cable television service the company has put itself into the top 10 in their industry. They have done so by having built a reputation of being the technology expert in the market. The market expert offers more than just television into your home but also the high service to go with it.

They are providing several hundred channels with a huge palette of programs to satisfy even the most critical TV viewer. Included in most of the packages made available there can be found schedules with the sole intention to stir the interest of every family member. That has been a clever move by Comcast and through bundling they are able to provide the best and most economical way to total entertainment.

The main focus has been to satisfy all your entertainment and telecommunications needs so that you in return with never ever think of leaving their wide selection and thereby securing them substantial commercial incomes possibilities.

The company has grown their products and services palette to include high speed internet access, digital television and digital telephone plans. The reason for this is that they can keep their customers longer by securing all their communication within their product palette.

Services like high speed internet, digital television and digital phones have become basic services and can be found in almost every home in the United States and abroad. Both quality and price are second to none and that has been one of the reasons for the companys success over the years.

By spending tons of innovation dollars, Comcasts technological developments in cable services have made them able to broaden the number of programming channels to include more than 275 channels. Having that many channels will have the viewers pick from more than 8,000 different television programs each month. The best part is that the majority of channels and programs are made available at no extra cost. People can literally spend hours upon hours just flipping around between the channels.

Some of the programs made available are the specialty sports channels and several high definition channels. Images are crystal-clear and accompanied by excellent CD-quality audio simply because the programming is digital all the way through. The provided high definition is known as the best quality viewing on the market and rumor has it that no one provides it better than Comcast cable.

You will see richer colors and more intense images with great depth. By providing digital delivery it also enables them to provide far more options to their customers and now they even include On-Screen Programming guides, On-Demand (similar to Pay-Per-View) and Parental Control Guides.

By giving users these options the ease of program selection is very obvious and users have complete control over what and when the programs are viewed at home.