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For eleven years I begged my obstinate elderly father to allow a caregiver to help him with my ailing mother, but after 55 years of loving her, he adamantly insisted on taking care of her himself. Every caregiver I hired to help him sighed in exasperation, "Jacqueline, I just can't work with your father--his temper is impossible to handle. I don't think you'll be able to get him to accept help until he's on his knees himself."

My father had always been 90 percent wonderful, but boy-oh-boy, that raging temper was a doozy. Hed never turned his temper on me before, but then again, I'd never gone against his wishes either. When my mother nearly died from his inability to care for her, I had to step in and risk his wrath to save her life--having no idea that in the process it would nearly cost me my own.

JEKYLL & HYDE

I spent three months nursing my mother back to relative "health", while my father, who was telling me he loved me one minute, would get mad about some trivial thing, call me nasty names and throw me out of the house the next. I was stunned to see him get so upset over the most ridiculous things, even running the washing machine could cause a tizzy, and there was no way to reason with him. It was so heart wrenching to have my once-adoring father turn against me.

I immediately took him to his doctor and was astonished that he could act completely normal when he needed to. I couldn't believe it when the doctor looked at me like I was the crazy one. She didnt even take me seriously when I reported that my father nearly electrocuted my mother and that he nearly burned the house down. Much later I found out that hed instructed her not to listen to anything I said, because all I wanted was his money. (Boy do I wish he had some.)

Then things got serious. My father had never laid a hand on me my whole life, but one day he nearly choked me to death with his bare hands for adding HBO to his cable package, even though he had eagerly consented to it just a few days before. Terrified and devastated, I frantically called the police who took him to a psychiatric hospital for evaluation. I was so stunned when they quickly released him, saying they couldn't find anything wrong with him. Similar horrifying incidents occurred four times.

CATCH 22

I couldn't leave my father alone with my mother, because she'd surely die from his inability to care for her. I couldn't get the doctors to believe me, because he was always so darling and competent in front of them. I couldn't get medication to calm him, and even when I did, he refused to take it and flushed it down the toilet. I couldn't get him to accept a caregiver, and even when I did, no one would put up with him for very long. I couldn't place my mother in a nursing home--he'd just take her out. I couldn't put him in a home--he didn't qualify. They both refused any mention of assisted living, and legally I couldn't force them. I became trapped at my parents' home for nearly a year trying to solve the endless crisis, crying rivers daily--and infuriated with an unsympathetic medical system that wasn't helping me appropriately.

WHATS WRONG?

You don't need to have a doctorate to know something is wrong, but you do need a doctor who can diagnose and treat it properly. Finally, I stumbled upon a compassionate geriatric dementia specialist who performed a battery of blood, neurological and memory tests, along with P.E.T. scans. First he ruled out the numerous reversible dementias, and then, you should have seen my face drop when he diagnosed Stage One Alzheimer's in BOTH of my parents--something that all of their other doctors missed entirely.

TRAPPED IN OLD HABITS

What I'd been coping with was the beginning of dementia, which is intermittent and appears to come and go. I didn't understand that my father was addicted and trapped in his own bad behavior of a lifetime, and that his old habit of yelling to get his way was coming out over things that were now illogical and irrational... at times. I also didn't understand that demented does not mean stupid, at all, and that he was still socially adjusted to never show his "Hyde" side to anyone outside the family. Even with the beginning of dementia, it was amazing that he could still be extremely manipulative and crafty. On the other hand, my mother was even sweeter and lovelier than shed always been.

BALANCING BRAIN CHEMISTRY

Alzheimer's is just one type of dementia and there's no stopping the progression nor is there yet a cure. However, if identified early, there are medications that can slow the progression and keep a person in the early stage longer, delaying full-time care. (Ask a dementia specialist about the FDA approved medications: Aricept, Exelon and Reminyl. Also, medication for later stage--Memantine.)

After slowing the dementia, the doctor prescribed a small dose of anti-aggression medication, which smoothed out my fathers volatile temper without drugging him out. My parents also received anti-depressants, which made a huge difference in their moods. Once their brain chemistries were properly balanced, I was able to optimize their nutrition and fluid consumption with less resistance. I was also better able to implement behavioral techniques. Instead of logic and reason--I used distraction, redirection and reminiscence. Instead of arguing--I validated their feelings.

Finally, I was able to get my father to accept a caregiver (hed alienated 40), and with the use of Adult Day Health Care five days a week for them, and a weekly support group for me, everything started to fall into place. It was so wonderful to once again hear my father say, We love you so much, sweetheart. Then, after several more years of loving each othermy parents passed, just a few months apart, still living in their own home. Even though being responsible for every aspect of their last years was the hardest thing I have ever done--I am proud to say I gave them the best end-of-life I possibly could.

AHHH HINDSIGHT--IT'S ALWAYS 20/20

What is so shocking is that none of the many professionals who treated my parents that first year ever discussed the possibility of Alzheimers Disease with me. One out of every ten persons by the age of 65, and nearly one out of every two by age 85, gets A.D. Had I simply been shown the "10 Warning Signs of Alzheimer's" I would have realized a year earlier what was happening and gotten my parents the help they so desperately needed. If this rings true for you about someone you love, I urge you to reach out for help from a dementia specialist sooner than later.

TEN WARNING SIGNS OF ALZHEIMER'S

1. Recent memory loss that affects job skills
2. Difficulty performing familiar tasks
3. Problems with language
4. Disorientation of time and place
5. Poor or decreased judgment
6. Problems with abstract thinking
7. Misplacing things
8. Changes in mood or behavior
9. Changes in personality
10. Loss of initiative

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Jacqueline Marcell is a national speaker on eldercare and the author of, "Elder Rage", a Book-of-the-Month Club selection being considered for a feature film. Over fifty endorsements include: Hugh Downs, Regis Philbin and Dr. Dean Edell. Jacqueline also hosts a radio program heard worldwide on: http://www.wsradio.com/copingwithcaregiving . For more information: http://www.ElderRage.com

Permission is granted to publish all/part of this article free of charge as long as: the author's byline is included, the links are live, and the author is notified: J.Marcell@cox.net or 949-975-1012.

Its all about body language, and women often use body language to show men they are interested. Women who flirt are subconsciously trying to tell you they are interested and want to take things to the next level.

Men sometimes find, though, that interpreting female flirting signals can be challenging. They may term it more of a mystery, in fact. The problem is that women often send flirting signs than can give off mixed information.

For instance, sometimes women who flirt are genuinely attracted to you and want to get to know you. On the contrary, women sometimes are just flirting in a friendly manner and, actually, have no feelings of attraction.

So, the question is how to a guy can depict honest flirting from the friendly (not really interested) flirting.

Though women will remain a challenge to understand, there are ways to help you determine if a woman is sending you a true flirting signal. By learning to identify these flirting signals, you will be in a much better position to figure out of she is attracted to you and interested in getting to know you.

Remember what I said about body language? Well, here is when it comes into play. Women who flirt will often begin flirting with you before you even begin a conversation with her. Here are three flirting cues that mean she is attracted to you and would like you to approach her:

Signal 1: She constantly looks your way.

When you out trying to meet women, you might notice one who constantly glances your way. When you are in a social setting like a bar or the like, dont be fooled. Girls will randomly look your way yet are not really interested in you. But, if you find a woman who keeps looking in you direction and checking you out, she is more likely than not flirting with you.

Now, she is definitely interested if she locks eyes with you! This is one of the more obvious flirting signals.

Keep in mind that eye contact is usually the main way women flirt with guys initially, which means women will typically not approach you to initiate conversation. That ball is in your court. So, if you find a girl glancing your way, go ahead and approach her. She is probably hoping you will.

Signal 2: She is trying to get your attention.

In addition to eye contact, women who flirt because they are interested also make an extra effort to get you attention. She may walk or stand near you several times. If you find her standing by you and her friends are nowhere to be seen, she may be isolating herself from them hoping you start talking to her.

So, if you notice her actively placing herself in a position that you may notice her, you have just picked up on one of the more classic female flirting signs.

Signal 3: She makes eye contact and smiles.

As mentioned briefly earlier, one of the more forward ways women flirt is by locking eyes and smiling. Women who flirt by sending you a smile are telling you that, first, she likes she sees and, second, she wants you to come over.

Typically, women do not casually smile at guys they are not interested in. So, take a smile as a clear sign that she is interested and wants you to approach her.

The three signs above are real ways women flirt to get men to approach them. By paying attention and picking up on these cues, you can be more confident in the fact that she is attracted to you and make your way over. But, it is up to you to notice the flirting signals!

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If you are a woman of a certain age, you have, no doubt, started to become aware of the effects of aging on your skin. And, although time passes by, there are many things that you can do to help your skin age more slowly, look better, healthier and younger. What many women may not realize is that the type of makeup that you wear can have a huge impact on how your skin looks and feels now and in the future.

The answer to having younger and healthier skin is, in fact, to wear a Pure Mineral Makeup. Why? Traditional makeup is most often composed of lots of fillers and binders making it a heavy weight that not only looks heavy and over made on your face (which makes you look older), but actually cakes up in lines and wrinkles making them appear even more obvious. A Pure Mineral Makeup is composed of pulverized minerals, which produces a very lightweight, silky makeup that feels like youre not wearing makeup at all. Pure Mineral Makeup sits on top of the skin so it doesnt accentuate wrinkles. In fact, light reflects off of the minerals and actually diminishes the appearance of lines and wrinkles on your face-making you look younger.

Another benefit of a Pure Mineral Makeup over regular makeup in making you look younger, is that a Pure and Natural Mineral Makeup is Hypoallergenic and Noncomedogenic naturally, due to the inherent properties of the minerals themselves. No need to add or remove chemicals to produce these important benefits. Because the minerals in Natural Mineral Makeups sit on top of the skin, they dont clog your pores. No woman wants to be 30 or 40-something and suffer from break-outs (like a teenager) due to her makeup.

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If you have reached a juncture in your life at which you think you are having a problem with alcohol, you may be curious (if not downright concerned) about what are some of the alcoholism symptoms. The same is the case if there is someone in your family, or perhaps a friend, who you think may be dealing with a drinking problem and who you think may be an alcoholic.

Alcoholism symptoms actually vary from one person to the next. However, there are some common alcoholism symptoms which do occur with some regularity when a person is afflicted with alcoholism. The alcoholism symptoms can appear in both physical and psychological form.

Some of the more commonplace physical alcoholism symptoms are:

* nausea

* vomiting

* weight loss

* skin discoloration

* red eyes

* puffy face

* numbness in the legs or arms (or all limbs)

* liver damage

* damage to the brain

Some of the more commonplace psychological alcoholism symptoms are:

* depression

* anxiety

* loss of self esteem

* blackouts (there is a physical element to blackouts as well)

*severe mood swings

Typically, a person afflicted with alcoholism will demonstrate multiple alcoholism symptoms on both the physical and psychological level at the same time. It is very rare that a person will demonstrate only one of the alcoholism symptoms. However, you do need to keep in mind in the rare instances in which only one of the alcoholism symptoms manifests itself, an individual could still be suffering from alcoholism.

The absolute and sad reality is that if the disease of alcoholism progresses, a person's life is at risk on both the physical and psychological levels. Alcoholism is a fatal disease. A person can end up dying from either the physical alcoholism symptoms (for example, liver failure) or from the psychological alcoholism symptoms (for example, suicide).

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The revokable trust, really spelled as the revocable trust, or the revocable living trust, but many refer to as the revokable trust or the revokable living trust, is a very popular and common estate planning tool. But is it really revocable? You may be surprised.

First off, what makes it a revokable trust? Basically, the right to revoke means the right to terminate the trust as to one or all of the assets that are held in the trust.

If the trust is a revokable trust, it also includes the right to modify the terms of the trust.

However, what many people often don't realize, until it is too late, is that many revokable trusts contain language that converts the revokable trust, in whole or in part, into one or more irrevocable trusts.

This is done usually through the use of the AB irrevocable trust language many revokable trusts contain. This is done typically after one spouse dies and is used for estate tax planning. You can find more information about the AB irrevocable trust at: http://www.LivingTrustSecrets.com which contains many will and trust resources.

Another way the revokable trust becomes irrevocable is when a parent dies and passes property to a trust for a minor child.

It is important to understand if your revokable living trust becomes an irrevocable trust. You may impose obligations on others that you are unaware of. Read the document and if you have questions, consult a competent attorney.

Good luck and until next time,

Phil Craig

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Women give a lot of thought to a man's penis, though it is not always size that she is thinking about. This article will explain what women really think about a man's size.

Many glossy ads and also spam emails that appear in your inbox would have you believe that woman are entirely focused and absorbed with the size of your manhood.

Of course there are some women who are very much fixated upon size and believe that it very important to their sexual fulfillment. However, there are also many women who think length and width are relatively unimportant. Perhaps in gay circles there may be more of a consistent and persistent interest in this topic.

However, all things being equal, it is really a matter of personal interest.

I think a man can be a fantastic lover with a smaller penis. It would depend greatly how he uses it and the other techniques and methods that he uses in his lovemaking and how he makes a woman feel throughout.

On the other hand that if a man is smaller it can have a greater effect on the woman's enjoyment of certain sexual positions - particularly being on top. I also have a friend who told me quite frankly once that she was performing oral sex on the man and had a lot of trouble actually finding it. That being said, the man was not embarrassed about his small size.

There are also a group of women who actually long for partners who are small and are not happy with men who are average sized or bigger. To them intercourse with a man with a small penis feels more like being stimulated with fingers which can be extremely enjoyable.

Unless a woman tells you diplomatically that you are small you should assume that the size you are is just perfect for her.

Really, it is more important what YOU think of your size!

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