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The following article is one of a series of articles which focus on building or regaining Self Esteem, motivating and empowering men to deal with the very sensitive subject of their Sexual Health. This empowering article on men's sexual health was written in response to questions which have been asked on topics related to Men's Issues as well as address common challenges that people have with this subject. I sincerely hope that you find the following information of value.

How To Be A Great Lover

Can you really tell me what a great lover is? Perhaps you think you are one already but what criteria are you using to judge? I am talking about a lot more than the number of notches you may have on your gun.

Sad thing is most men aren't really all that tuned in to what makes a great lover. Whats even more sad is that most men certainly would like to be regarded as one. Clearly when this desire is based on some benchmark such as sexual prowess or some macho definition, the chances of becoming truly a great lover will remain in the dim and distant future.

Old hat it may be but just think back in history. Who were regarded as a great lover? Why were they regarded as a great lover?

So what is it that will make a woman sigh, go all weak at the knees (just thinking about it) and tell her best friend all about you as soon as she can after the first time you make love? What is it that will make you so appealing and successful?

If I asked you if you liked women, what would you say? Point is I am not asking you if you like having sex with women. Do you REALLY like women? If you do then you have a huge head (no pun intended) start. Why?

Stupidly we allow ourselves to get accustomed to the more masculine view of women through comedians, jokes, cartoons, discussions in bars and so on. If you happen to be this type, sorry mate, you have a whole lot of learning to do. As soon as you get the message, treat women as an equal, actually genuinely like women, then women will genuinely like you one more step to being a great lover.

Kind of leading on from the previous point, if you do like women, you will find it a whole lot easier to listen to them. I know great lovers are experts at using their mouths and tongues try becoming an expert using your ears. Women like to be listened to. Why?

Maybe its the equal partner thing. Maybe its because women like to feel that they are actually communicating with their partner or with their date. Look at it this way, dont you want your date to make you feel special? Well cmon reciprocate. Make the woman you are with feel she is important (not because of her body), make her feel she is special through focusing on her and truly listening to her.

This leads to your partner or date being a lot more relaxed and this feeling most definitely will lead to much better sex and take you a couple of steps closer to graduating as a great lover.

O.K. lets discuss the more physical attributes of becoming a great lover.

I hope you have had a chance to read my article Let Kissing Be Your Prelude To A Great Sexual Experience". If not, make the time, it complements this article very well. Make the woman you are with feel really, really good by being gentle and taking your time. Touch her gently, take your time kissing her, touching her, stroking her body.

So many of us men, unfortunately, still believe in the cave man approach or wham, bam, thank you mam ; they want to get through the kissing and the foreplay and go straight to the sex. If you are like this, sorry guys, but women just don't feel that way. On the contrary, it is sure a way of making them feel less attractive, less relaxed and daft as it sounds less wanted. This certainly isn't the way to excite and stimulate most women.

If you are a great lover, not only will you already know all about what has been discussed already, you will certainly know all about the female body, those special areas like kissing her neck and other very important parts of her body. Learn to understand more about the female body (believe me youll have a great time) and discover the little but very important techniques that excite most women.

Next guys, you have paid attention to me if you have come this far. A great lover pays attention during sex. Well, to a great lover sex is more than just stick in your penis and bang away. He will listen to the wonderful noises his lover makes, he will pay attention especially to his lovers reactions as he discovers her body. If his lover is the least bit uncomfortable or a little unsure, a great lover will stop in an instant.

What really stops most men from being a great lover is that they tend to focus on having sex and not the art of making love which it truly is. This comes from a self centered desire to have it off as opposed to enjoying a beautiful shared experience that both partners will want to remember. Dont you want your lover to remember you?

So listen guys. The next time you are with your partner or on a date with a woman, dont pretend to pay attention, make her feel important, communicate, listen to her. Make the effort to really get to know her, make her feel the special person she is and you know what. She will enjoy your company and you WILL enjoy hers. Also, instead of getting preoccupied with wondering if youre going to be lucky or not, practice what you have read here and the woman you are with will really feel good in your company. If she is feeling good, feeling special, all warm and relaxed you are well on your way to becoming a great lover.

Thanks for paying attention!!!

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