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You deserve the best relationship in the universe and you have invested a lot of time into making yourself the best you can be to attract this person. So now you have found a system, attracted your perfect life partner and now things are going along smoothly, or are they?

There are always areas of improvement am I right? Oh I think so! Anyone who thinks they have it all figured out is missing some real juice in this life. As Tony Robbins said, Constant and never ending improvement it is the path to power.

In fact by making tiny, and I mean tiny improvements each and every day you can literally transform your life in a very short amount of time. So don't ever think you are finished! Your life deserves to be a masterpiece and that includes your relationships!

Alright, I can hear you thinking, when is he going to get to the point! So here it is!

While listening to an interview today and the guy was talking some *crazy* things about relationships. Some of the ideas he threw out for making relationships successful were so simple yet so profound I felt I had to share them with you.

Like this one: What is the one thing that will make your partner love you with all their heart... forever?

Give up? Its so simple, yet after thinking about it it makes so much sense. What makes you feel loved? When someone finds a perfect gift for you and gives it to you completely out of the blue, and its perfect. The answer is that simple. Small unexpected gifts.

If your partner collects Japanese fans and you know that go out and find one, pick it up, it might cost a few bucks but believe me, it will be worth it. Wrap it put a small card in and have it delivered to where your partner will get it. For no reason at all! That's the power of it. Don't do it to get out of the doghouse do it to build love. And it will.

Here is another great one. There will always be some friction in a relationship, would you agree? Not in a perfect one, you say? Well here's the real scoop. Without a bit of friction there is no heat! So get used to it!

But seriously, if you and your partner want to to end bickering and nagging on both sides forever, do this. Make a contract that when ever your partner tells you that what you are doing irritates them. Say, "I won't ever do ____ again." And don't. Expect the same from them. I am talking about simple things here. Toothpaste caps, beard stubble in the sink, folding laundry etc. If you do this with your partner with integrity and follow through you will be amazed at the improvement in your relationship.

Now for a juicy one. Who here knows the number one key to amazing sex? Well I can see all sorts of things going through peoples minds and some of you are pretty kinky! But that's not it! Its so basic that it gets lost in the shuffle of Viagra, Kama Sutra and the Sex Show. Its this one thing that will skyrocket your sex life. Trust. In order for there to be true amazing, crazy sex you must have trust and her sister safety.

Now if you are into more extreme sorts of erotic play then this is even more important! So build trust with your partner. Ask them how they need to have it to feel safe and truly right for them. You will be happy with the results of that conversation.

And while we are on the subject here is one of my personal favorites. What is the most powerful aphrodisiac that you know. Oysters? Spanish Fly? A Vodka martini shaken not stirred? Well in my experience it is again so blindingly simple. When you want to have amazing connection and in many cases great sex too tell your truth! Not easy stuff, but things that make you choke up a bit or are really hard to get out. In almost every case I have found that this simple thing can totally transform an evening if not a whole relationship!

P.S. Here is another powerful secret that I learned today. The number one way to know if your partner is no longer only sleeping with you? Again its so simple you will kick yourself! He or she suddenly starts showering at strange times. Simple yet so many of us might miss it.

Now, if your sweetheart has just come home from the gym, freshly showered is to be expected. But if they are suddenly coming home from work freshly showered, or from some other place where showering is out of place, then keep your eye open. What you do with this information is up to you and there are always cases where its perfectly legit. In the end you have to trust your gut.